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  • December20th

    There are a number of people who are asking whether or not Republicans are supporters of same-sex weddings. They want to know this because they want to see who they should give their support to. By identifying this, people get a chance to know who their true leaders are. While many Republicans oppose the stand on gay marriages, there are some who disagree. This is why the recent legalization of the bill on same-sex marriages in New York was passed.

    Back in 2009, the bill first emerged in the New York State Senate, facing a chamber controlled by Democratic leaders. Unfortunately, they were unable to gather enough votes to pass the bill. Moreover, the entire Republican party opposed the passing of the bill.

    It was only recently when plans to pass the bill re-opened and surfaced in senate once more. Fortunately, there were four Republicans who joined the 29 Democrats who wanted to approve same-sex marriages in New York. This gave them enough votes, and the bill was finally passed. New York has joined the roster of US states that have legalized gay weddings.

    After that victorious turn of events, the next weeks were followed by a number of boycotts and personal attacks, particularly on Republicans whom all voted against legalizing the bill in 2009. Sadly, they also vowed that they would oppose same-sex marriage during their campaigns.

    Today, gay rights advocates have turned their full attention to Maryland, which is now ‘on the verge’ of being the next state to legalize same-sex marriages. Will the Republicans do another surprise attack? Or will they have a change of heart this time around? Considering many of them have their own opinions about marriage equality, we may be lucky this time too. Unless they are afraid to separate from party orthodoxy, then we can only hope the best for Maryland as it tries to pass the bill.

     

  • December20th

    If you and your partner are planning to get married any time soon, you will need to get information on where you can legally get married. This is because the state you are in may not recognize your request to get married with your loved one. Worst case scenario, is that they have observed a strict ban on same-sex marriages. As such, you really need to know where you can get married without any issues involved. The last thing you’d want is having an anti-gay marriage rally waiting for you outside your wedding venue.

    Massachusetts

    Throughout the US, Massachusetts was the first state to allow gay marriages. The ban was lifted on November 18, 2003. This was after a 4-3 ruling in favor of the opinion wherein same-sex marriage bans were a violation on the constitution of the state. This case referred to the Goodridge v. Mass. Department of Public Health 440 Mass. 309.

    A majority said:

    “[Prohibiting same-sex marriage] barred access to the protections, benefits, and obligations of civil marriage, a person who enters into an intimate, exclusive union with another of the same sex is arbitrarily deprived of membership in one of our community’s most rewarding and cherished institutions. That exclusion is incompatible with the constitutional principles of respect for individual autonomy and equality under law.”

    However, it was only in May 17, 2004 that Massachusetts started issuing marriage licenses. Another milestone is the passing of the bill wherein same-sex marriages were recognized as legal in other jurisdictions of the state. This was signed by Governor Deval Patrick in July 2008.

    Connecticut

    Following Massachusetts, Connecticut was the next state to legalize gay marriages. After denying the marriage licenses of 8 couples supposed to be wed in 2004, the Connecticut Supreme Court finally gave ruling to alter this on October 10, 2008. Again, the couples who fought for the legalization of gay marriages argued against grounds that the Connecticut Constitution was discriminating them against their sexual preferences.

    A memorable quote from this event is:

     “We conclude that, in light of the history of pernicious discrimination faced by gay men and lesbians, and because the institution of marriage carries with it a status and significance that the newly created classification of civil unions does not embody, the segregation of heterosexual and homosexual couples into separate institutions constitutes a cognizable harm.

    A few days after legalizing gay weddings, marriage licenses were issued on Oct. 28, 2008.

    Iowa 

    It was in April 3, 2009 that an unanimous decision was made by the Supreme Court of Iowa. The decision was that the ban on gay marriages was a violation of the state’s constitution. Marriage licenses were then issued starting April 27, 2009.

    The court said:

     “We are firmly convinced the exclusion of gay and lesbian people from the institution of civil marriage does not substantially further any important governmental objective.  The legislature has excluded a historically disfavored class of persons from a supremely important civil institution without a constitutionally sufficient justification… We have a constitutional duty to ensure equal protection of the law. Faithfulness to that duty requires us to hold Iowa’s marriage statute, Iowa Code section 595.2, violates the Iowa Constitution. If gay and lesbian people must submit to different treatment without an exceedingly persuasive justification, they are deprived of the benefits of the principle of equal protection upon which the rule of law is founded.”

     

    Vermont

    Even though Vermont already recognized civil unions in July 1, 2000, it wasn’t until April 7, 2009 that the state legalized civil marriages for couples of the same sex. This law came into effect last Sept. 1, 2009.

     

    New Hampshire

    Before it was fully permitted, Gov. John Lynch had a strong desire to explicitly mention the rights of different religious institutions and their stand on same-sex weddings. As such, the bill went through a number of changes. Finally, the HB 0436 bill was signed by the Governor last June 3, 2009. The law came into effect a few months after, Jan. 1, 2010.

     “This bill eliminates the exclusion of same gender couples from marriage, affirms religious freedom protections of clergy with regard to the solemnization of marriage, and provides a mechanism by which same gender couples who have entered into a civil union prior to the enactment of this bill may obtain the legal status of marriage.”

    New York

    Just a few months ago, New York joined the list of the 6th US state to allow same-sex marriages. Signed by Governor Andrew M. Cuomo, the Marriage Equality Act was passed by the New York State Legislature last June 24, 2011. A month after that, the law came into full force in the state.

     

    Meanwhile…. 

    California

    Compared with the other states that have allowed gay weddings, California is the state that has a complicated stand on this issue. The state has gone through a topsy-turvy battle against legalizing gay marriages. Currently, California is going through a Proposition 8 trial. There is a current ban on same-sex marriages in California.

    “The difference between the measure proposed by Proposition 8 and the one contained in Proposition 22 is that Proposition 8 proposed to add this language as a provision of the California Constitution, whereas by Proposition 22 this language had been adopted as a statutory provision.  (A California statute, of course, is invalid if it conflicts with the governing provisions of the California Constitution.)”(Page 18; Strauss v. Horton)

    US States wherein same-sex weddings have been banned:

    • Alabama
    • Alaska
    • Arkansas
    • Arizona
    • Delaware
    • Florida
    • Kansas
    • Kentucky
    • Louisiana
    • Michigan
    • Minnesota
    • Montana
    • Nebraska
    • North Carolina
    • North Dakota
    • Ohio
    • Oklahoma
    • Pennsylvania
    • South Carolina
    • Tennessee
    • Utah
    • Virginia
    • Wyoming

     

    [Source: States that Allow Gay Marriage | Care2]

  • December19th


    Given today’s open-mindedness about culture and technology, it is only surprising to discover that there are still many who are indifferent about gay marriages. It is still a difficult subject that many choose to avoid. It seems like society is not slowing down anytime soon, however, with the acceptance of the notion. Slowly by slowly, countries are becoming more accepting of the third gender. But until everyone learns to be accepting of these people, it is best to gain a knowledge of the most common arguments against gay marriages and why we think they’re stupid.

    Here are some of the most common arguments you can find in many LGBT organizations and movements to legalize gay marriages:

    #1: Marriage is Sacred. Period.

    If marriage is sacred, then why do people end up divorcing one another? If marriage is so sacred, why was divorce legalized in the first place? Also, marriage doesn’t stick to just one religion. There are many people who have different religious beliefs so why do they marry one another? They accept their spouse’s religion and make it their own. Moreover, atheists get married too. But instead of getting married in a particular church, they do so through a presiding judge or government official.

    #2: Marriage is about procreation 

    If this were the case, then why are there some couples who engage in pre-marital sex? How about the couples who get married after bearing a child already? This argument is so difficult to explain because there are some couples who do not plan to have any children. The only reason why they get married is because they want to spend the rest of their lives with their loved one. Given the option to adopt or go for surrogacy, the argument no longer deserves much thought to it.

    #3: Polygamy is next to be legalized

    There are many who fear that once same sex marriages are legalized, polygamy will follow. There really isn’t a good basis for this argument because people will always cheat when they are unhappy with their marriages. Even with Muslims, polygamy is already legal. So there really isn’t a basis as to why people think polygamy will follow. In the first place, people are really aware of polygamy and why it should not be done.

    #4: It goes against tradition

    This is one of the biggest arguments that many people are using, including the Prime Minister. Well, if it really goes against tradition, then shouldn’t we bring back slavery, witch hunts, living in caves, stoning, and even the notion that women should not be permitted to work nor vote? This is an absurd argument that really shows how closed minded some people can be.

    #5: Marriage should be between one man and one woman

    The argument that rises how marriage should only be between one man and one woman is absurd. This is because people argue that gay marriages go against the natural order of things. Well clearly, these people have been misinformed. There are some male animals that do ‘certain things’ with other males. Among the list include male dolphins, dogs, lions, does, and many more. If this can still be considered natural, then how come gay marriages can’t be legalized?

     

    There are a lot of other arguments being raised about gay marriages. The fact that these arguments are still being debated today just proves that it needs to be addressed already. Thank God for Las Vegas and the other countries which have already allowed gay marriages!

    What do you think about these arguments? If you’re planning to get married anytime soon, you may want to check out our post on the best same-sex wedding destinations you should consider.

     

    [Source: About.com | Mama Mia ]

  • December12th

     

    To be honest, there really is no comparing with the feeling of being able to spend a vacation with someone you love. The experience alone can be a memory that you two can build for the rest of your lives. This is why there are so many people who prefer to go with their partner on a vacation.

     

    If you’re planning to go on a vacation anytime soon, you will have to choose from the best destinations where you can be yourself and enjoy the moment. Since there are still a number of countries which are not as open to the thought of same-sex relationships, you will need to choose a destination that openly accepts this. After all, you do not want to get disturbed looks from locals, let alone land in jail for publicly displaying your gender, right?

     

    Here are some of the best destinations where you can spend your vacation with your partner that you can enjoy:

     

     

    Mexico City, Mexico

     

    The best thing about Mexico, apart from its tequila, is that it has been significantly influenced by its gay followings. You can visit the artsy Coyoacan or the trendy Condesa area and still get the enjoyment of being in an open community. They even have a gay club district called Zona Rosa, where you can choose from the number of festive bars. One of the most recommended places for you to slumber is the Hotel Condesa or the Condesa Haus; both of which are located in the exuberant and joyous Condesa district.

     

     

     

    Montreal, Canada

     

    A trip to Montreal is never justified with just being a tourist alone. Make sure that you book your trip to this destination on one of the most exciting GLBT arts festivities in the world, the Divers/Cite. Apart from this exciting event, you can find an array of gay bars, saunas, lively cafes, restaurants, and strip clubs throughout the area. You’ll never look at Montreal without thinking of cuisine, nightlife, fashion, art and sex. Make your way to La Conciergerie, a comfortable B&B that will not rob you out of your budget.

     

     

     

    San Antonio, Texas

     

    The thing you’ll enjoy most about San Antonio is that it has a lot of affordable options for you to choose from. With such an amazing lineup, you’ll be sure to find the right accommodation you can stay in. Among the places to visit is the South Town neighborhood as well as the King William Historic District. There are plenty of gay-friendly B&Bs you can choose from, particularly Ayres Inn which is just a few minutes’ walk from the number of gay bars available. Not to mention, you’ll find some of the best Tex-Mex and Mexican food in this part of the country!

     

     

  • December9th

    Okay, so you’re in love and you want to get married with your partner. The only problem is—he’s the same gender as you! Since there are still a number of countries and religions that do not accept these unions, it is important that you look for alternatives where you can get hitched and not worry about what people have to say.

    In the past, this used to be no trouble in California. However, a recent bill banning same-sex marriages throughout the state has just been passed. Say hello to your new worst enemy, Proposition 8.

    So now that this bill is under way, what can love birds do? We can only hope that the gay rights movements of the state will not go down without a clean fight. Fortunately, there are a lot of other places where you can get married. Consider it as a destination wedding where you can get wed with your loved one!

    Here are some of your options for a destination gay wedding:

    Amsterdam, Netherlands

    If there’s one city in the world that first welcomed and legalized same-sex marriages, it would be Amsterdam. The first gay wedding was held in this Dutch city in April 2001. Apart from getting married, you can also check out the city’s pristine history, architecture, art and of course, the Red Light District.

    Before planning your wedding in Amsterdam, be sure to check the requirements. You will be required to submit some important documents such as a Notice of Intention to Marry and adhere to the conditions of the Dutch law.

    photo by FrontDoor

    Cape Cod, Massachusetts

    Among all the states in the US, Massachusetts was the very first to legalize same-sex marriage in 2004. However, it was just in July 2008 that Massachusetts allowed tourists to get married in the state too. If you want to get married without leaving the United States, you can do so in Massachusetts.

    There are a lot of reception areas you can choose from in Cape Cod. You may want to consider the Flying Bridge as it offers an elegant view. It is overlooking Falmouth Harbor.

    photo by Holiday-Velvet

    Vancouver, Canada

    Before Canada legalized gay marriages in June 2005, the hip West Coast city was already popular among gay travelers. This is the perfect location if you want a wedding with snow around you!

    Some of the best destinations in Vancouver include areas in the lower mainland such as Surrey, South Surrey, and Harrison Mills.

    photo by Open-Trip

    Ibiza, Spain

    Apart from being the party capital of the world, Spain is also recognized as a destination for gay marriages. Before its legalization in 2005, the country was a closed minded Catholic center. Even though the Pope is unpleased with this, the country has grown more accepting to the new gender.

    With beautiful waters, you just might be better off with a beach wedding. Oh and yes, don’t forget to party and enjoy your stay!

    photo by CheaperFlights

    Cape Town, South Africa

    In November 2006, South Africa joined the bandwagon by legalizing same-sex marriages. If you would like a wedding full of culture and history, you should definitely give South Africa a shot!

    Recently Cape Town has been voted as among the top 5 gay travel destinations by the international media.

    photo by ImageShop

    Bergen, Norway

    Norway is another destination you can add to your options. Ever since its legalization in 2009, lots of people have been visiting the country to get married. A tip when choosing this option: pack warm clothes!

    Bergen is most famous for its number of Hanseatic buildings. This is why it holds its 2000 status as European City of Culture. It is surrounded by 7 great mountains and fjords which create a lasting memory on your wedding day!

    [Source: Matador Network]